Laurabelle's Blog

I was doing the random blog thing at BlogTree.com and came across an article called Bi For Now. I don't want to attempt to explain it to you, because I know I'll get it wrong. Just go read the article. Unfortunately the archive/permalink page seems to be broken at the moment, but it should still be on the front page for the next couple of days I think (it's the Feb. 9 entry). Go read it, I'll stay right here.

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Done? Good.

I think I understand most of the article quite well. I identify with her assertion that Gender is not a factor, since I've had those kinds of thoughts. Not that I consider myself lesbian or bi, but the person I loved most on Earth was female, so I can understand loving someone and wanting to be with that person in spite of silly things like sexual convention.

On the other hand, the last paragraph just throws me for a loop.

So there you have it. Yes, I would have a relationship with a man if he were the right person for me. If the right person for me was transgendered, that would be fine too. If the right person for me is a woman, so be it. Call me bisexual if you want to. Call me omnisexual, peoplesexual, a slut, whatever. I prefer to identify as a lesbian, and isn't it my self-identification that should matter to the rest of you?

I'm hung up on the word matter. I guess I also don't understand whom she means by the word you. Maybe she's just talking to her friends, not to the general public, in which case, no, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks. Maybe I'm surprised that she's giving a thought to what anybody thinks. Maybe I'm surprised that she thinks anyone who wouldn't automatically pay attention to how she identifies herself would change his mind after reading her blog. I don't know.

The other thing I don't understand is the distinction she's evidently making between her self-identification (lesbian) and her sexual preferences (open to anything but probably female). I guess maybe I'd like more of a definition from her of what she considers a lesbian to be, because evidently to her it's not mere sexual bent (pun unintended). If I get up the courage, I'll ask her.